From: owner-stillpt-digest@smoe.org (stillpt-digest) To: stillpt-digest@smoe.org Subject: stillpt-digest V2 #238 Reply-To: stillpt@smoe.org Sender: owner-stillpt-digest@smoe.org Errors-To: owner-stillpt-digest@smoe.org Precedence: bulk stillpt-digest Friday, December 22 2000 Volume 02 : Number 238 Today's Subjects: ----------------- Re: b/Who's in the wrong, here [Dawn Friedman ] ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Date: Wed, 20 Dec 2000 22:31:02 -0500 From: Dawn Friedman Subject: Re: b/Who's in the wrong, here At 10:08 PM 12/20/00 -0500, Meredith wrote: >During the entire >confrontation scene, I was feeling sorrier for Riley than I'd have thought >possible. Buffy never once told him that she loved him -- the only time >the word "love" was mentioned in connection with him was when she was >trying to piss Angel off, and Riley wasn't even there at the time. True. But Xander's speech to her puts a different spin on it. >Buffy has been getting more and more self-absorbed and self-righteous all >season. What are her mom and Dawn, chopped liver? She's been there for them. Until the scene with Xander, I thought she just didn't love him enough, and I was annoyed with her (though not to the point of wanting to hit her) for not owning up and letting him go. But what he said was: you don't want to admit you love him because you got burned last time. Buffy is obsessed with her responsibilities. She has to be. The last time she let love get out of her control, she didn't just get her feelings hurt, she nearly got the world destroyed. So this time she said, somewhere inside: I will never let this love thing get away from me again. No declarations, no letting go and letting the other person be the strong one, just endless strength. >I was *so* glad Riley's copter took off before she got there -- >she didn't deserve a chance to make up with him. By being left behind to >stew in her own juices, she's getting exactly what she did deserve. Riley lost her because he gave up too soon. It wasn't just cliche that made him turn away from the window; the gesture was in character. That was his weakness. Buffy lost him because she was afraid to give up any of her control. That's hers. (I wish Giles had paid more attention.) >I don't think Riley was completely blame-free in all of this, but I think >of the two of them, Buffy was the one who should have shouldered more of >the blame. I think Buffy's problem is that she's shouldering everything. Dawn ------------------------------ End of stillpt-digest V2 #238 *****************************