From: owner-seven-seas@smoe.org (seven-seas-digest) To: seven-seas-digest@smoe.org Subject: seven-seas-digest V2 #565 Reply-To: seven-seas@smoe.org Sender: owner-seven-seas@smoe.org Errors-To: owner-seven-seas@smoe.org Precedence: bulk seven-seas-digest Saturday, July 19 2003 Volume 02 : Number 565 ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Date: Sat, 19 Jul 2003 02:22:23 -0500 (CDT) From: Amy Moseley Rupp Subject: Re: OT RE: seven-seas OT: What Are We Doing To Do With Our Lives? > I just have one question......... > if the band didn't go on till midnight....... > why were your kids still awake halfway thru the set?? > Had to be nearly 12:45 by then....A 3 year old??? Should've > been ready for bed before you even had to leave the house > to go to the gig since it was in your own town! Nevermind what > a lousy babysitter you must've had!!!! I would've said > "It's my turn to do something for me. Goodnight, > I'll see you in the morning!" I'm going to say this once and once only. These kids are in the middle of a very nasty divorce. Were I to write a soap opera divorce, it couldn't get much worse. I only see them eight days out of fourteen. I stayed at home with my three-year-old until she was just past three, then she was forced into daycare and away from me half the time, by her father. My ten-year-old has suffered as well. They switch houses four times every two weeks. I didn't come up with this plan, the lawyers did, and believe me, it doesn't work for the kids. But the courts want to give equal custody to a father who wants it, even if he has been and is cruel to the mother -- only physical abuse would keep him from having the kids. They want every minute they can get with me -- and this didn't start until *after* the separation. And I want every minute I can get with them, because not only are they gone almost half the time, I now have to work, and so have less time and energy to devote to them. I've decided that I don't want to go to gigs that fall on my custodial time, at least not while my kids are so desperate for my time. It ain't worth it, I don't care who it is. The people who live with this situation, not just me, are worried sick for the kids. Unless and until you can observe the situation, you have no right to judge. A right to form an opinion? yes. Say I ought to adopt it? no. Will was with me all evening and is in the best position to judge my mood and what I was thinking. You weren't. I'm a nice and loving person in the middle of a very rotten situation. I do the best I can, as I think you would, and every other caring parent, but that doesn't mean we would do the same thing. - --Amy ====================================== http://www.bunnymenlist.com ====================================== ------------------------------ Date: Sat, 19 Jul 2003 02:28:56 -0500 (CDT) From: Amy Moseley Rupp Subject: Re: seven-seas proms OTOTOTOT > >There's also the Mexican-American custom of quinceaneras, > >held when a girl is fifteen -- a sort of coming-of-age > >ceremony. > > I'm guessing that's more of a Mexican-Texan thing.... > coz I never heard of it! It's common throughout the Latin American world and has of course spread to the United States along with many other customs. See: http://www.quinceanera-boutique.com/quinceaneratradition.htm http://www.hpl.lib.tx.us/youth/cinco_quince.html http://www.plannersguide.com/quinceanera.htm Believe me, this is every bit as complicated as a wedding. ====================================== http://www.bunnymenlist.com ====================================== ------------------------------ End of seven-seas-digest V2 #565 ********************************