From: owner-joni-digest@smoe.org (JMDL Digest) To: joni-digest@smoe.org Subject: JMDL Digest V2012 #1654 Reply-To: joni@smoe.org Sender: owner-joni-digest@smoe.org Errors-To: owner-joni-digest@smoe.org Precedence: bulk Unsubscribe:mailto:joni-digest-request@smoe.org?body=unsubscribe Website:http://jonimitchell.com JMDL Digest Monday, November 5 2012 Volume 2012 : Number 1654 ========== TOPICS and authors in this Digest: -------- Re: Joni & Neil [Anita G ] ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Date: Mon, 5 Nov 2012 13:39:17 +0000 From: Anita G Subject: Re: Joni & Neil > I noticed that both songwriters cling to these parental gifts to this day: > Joni to her paint and Neil to his toy trains. I don't know quite what that > means but it seems important. > > Jim L'Hommedieu Jim, I imagine that sense of importance comes from what therapists would probably describe as transitional objects. Forgive me if I am teaching my Granny to suck eggs, but a transitional object is an "object" in that it's a tangible thing, (like Joni's paints and Neil's trains) which acts as a stand in for important attachment figures, like a parent or carer. When children have trouble maintaining a sense that the parent exists and will return (like the traumatic hospital visits that Joni and Neil had) the transitional object represents the continuation of the parent and their love. They can be very important in our inner worlds and can help sooth anxiety. Anita ------------------------------ End of JMDL Digest V2012 #1654 ****************************** ------- To post messages to the list, sendtojoni@smoe.org. Unsubscribe by clicking here: mailto:joni-digest-request@smoe.org?body=unsubscribe -------