From: owner-joni-digest@smoe.org (JMDL Digest) To: joni-digest@smoe.org Subject: JMDL Digest V2010 #125 Reply-To: joni@smoe.org Sender: owner-joni-digest@smoe.org Errors-To: owner-joni-digest@smoe.org Precedence: bulk Unsubscribe: mailto:joni-digest-request@smoe.org?body=unsubscribe Website: http://jonimitchell.com JMDL Digest Wednesday, April 28 2010 Volume 2010 : Number 125 ========== TOPICS and authors in this Digest: -------- Joni Content ["Randy Remote" ] RE: Funeral Music - NJC [] Re: Funeral music NJC [Melissa Gibbs ] RE: Funeral music [Laura Stanley ] Re: Treme (NJC) [Em ] Re: Re: Funeral music NJC [Anne Sandstrom ] Nurse Jackie JoniContent [Vince ] Joni on Nurse Jackie ["Lindsay Moon" ] Re: Funeral music NJC [Anita G ] Re: Funeral Music ["gene" ] re: Joni on Dylan [c Karma ] "The Beauty of a Soul" on cdbaby! NJC [waytoblue@comcast.net] Play it at my funeral music [Elisabeth Paschke ] Fw: Funeral music NJC ["Mark" ] ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Date: Mon, 26 Apr 2010 23:26:48 -0700 From: "Randy Remote" Subject: Joni Content "Have you seen my old Joni Mitchell albums?" - -Nurse Jackie (HBO series) episode 4/26/10 "Bleeding" ------------------------------ Date: Tue, 27 Apr 2010 19:59:57 +1200 From: Subject: RE: Funeral Music - NJC Kakki wrote: > When I first saw this thread on the digest I thought "this is the > last thing I > need to read" but out of distraction I did and found it was what > I needed. My > mother is in critical condition in the hospital since last > Saturday. I am too > numb to get into details. But after reading these posts, > especially of Anita > and Mags, I realized this was exactly what I needed to read. For > anyone so > inclined, please send up a prayer for us. Thanks dear friends. I'm so sorry to hear this news. I have very fond memories of meeting your mother when I came over for Jonifest 2001 and stayed with you. She is a lovely woman. Sending you my best... Hell ------------------------------ Date: Tue, 27 Apr 2010 10:41:01 +1000 From: Melissa Gibbs Subject: Re: Funeral music NJC Thanks Bob. As far as I9m aware, it9s not a big tradition in Australia for viewings. We were provided with the opportunity to see my father-in-law at the hospital but declined. I, too, will be cremated. This is another well-accepted tradition in Australia. In fact, I don9t know anyone who has been buried, although I am aware some like to be buried for religious reasons. It9s funny you should mention 3and when I die2 because I heard it a day after my father-in-law9s funeral and it brought tears to my eyes. I thought I9d like it played at my funeral too. I had my computer playing all my music on shuffle, and it miraculously played first up. I thought it was an omen, so will stick with it. I just love the lyrics 3I9m not scared of dying and I don9t really care/If it9s peace you find in dying, well then let the time be near2 and 3Give me my freedom for as long as I be/All I ask of living is to have no chains on me2. I always remember Spike Milligan saying he wanted on his tombstone the words 3See, I told you I was sick.2 I believe he is buried in Woy Woy, just an hour or so drive from Sydney where I live, so I should go and check out for myself. I also remember a silly joke I heard: Q: What would you like said at your funeral? A: Look, she9s still breathing! Enough gallows humour from me. Melissa in Sydney From: Date: Mon, 26 Apr 2010 13:14:12 -0400 To: Catherine McKay Cc: jonipeople LIST , Anita G , Mags , Mark-Leon Thorne , Subject: Re: Funeral music NJC Funerals can be such strange things...I find it quite funny when I'm going to a funeral/visitation with a co-worker and they say "I hate going to funerals" as if I was under the impression that they really enjoyed it? And there's all the cliches that you hear in the lines, not knowing what to say....I pretty much stick with "I'm so sorry for your loss" unless I really knew the person. Was in the middle of a funeral service a couple years ago, and a lady's cell phone rings, she answers it and says (fairly loudly) "I can't talk now - I'm at a funeral!". I'm not a big fan of viewing the dead person's body and will avoid that if at all possible. I loved George Carlin's line when someone turned to him as they were looking at the corpse and said "doesn't he look good" to which Carlin replied "GOOD? He's DEAD!" As for me, I'm signed up to donate whatever is still working and have the rest cremated. I would love to opt out of the traditional funeral home schtick and just have a party in my memory. I would already have the music picked out, and of course there will be Joni - not sure what all I'll put in there but Hejira for sure. And when I die, and when I'm gone....there'll be one child born in this world to carry on. Bob NP: Patsy Cline, "Why Can't He Be You" - ------------------------------------------------------------ The information transmitted is intended only for the person or entity to which it is addressed and may contain proprietary, business-confidential and/or privileged material. If you are not the intended recipient of this message you are hereby notified that any use, review, retransmission, dissemination, distribution, reproduction or any action taken in reliance upon this message is prohibited. If you received this in error, please contact the sender and delete the material from any computer. Any views expressed in this message are those of the individual sender and may not necessarily reflect the views of the company. - ------------------------------------------------------------ ------------------------------ Date: Tue, 27 Apr 2010 05:10:53 -0700 (PDT) From: Laura Stanley Subject: RE: Funeral music From: "Melissa Gibbs" To: Sent: Sunday, April 25, 2010 6:03 PM Subject: Funeral music Which leads me to consult the list - what Joni song would you like played at > your funeral? Urge for Going ------------------------------ Date: Tue, 27 Apr 2010 05:29:50 -0700 (PDT) From: Em Subject: Re: Treme (NJC) This show is my favorite thing on TV right now. Which says a lot, as there are currently new episodes of The Tudors, Nurse Jackie and other good ones. Treme will be one of those series you can re-watch in the future and get additional layers from. Just little details that tickle.... For instance the last episode (ep. 3) featured the most realistic flesh on flesh f_ck noises I've ever heard on TV or even in a movie for that matter. Completely not important to the general story line, and yet such a good detail. Makes me wonder how they accomplished that. And of course THE MUSIC is mind blowing. I never knew trombones were so delicious. Love me some TREME! :) Em ________________________________ From: Steve Dulson To: joni@smoe.org Sent: Mon, April 26, 2010 2:06:49 PM Subject: Treme (NJC) Anyone else been watching this on HBO? It's good. I'd love to get the Paz perspective on it - I'm sure he knows lots of the musicians involved. In fact there is a scene in the first episode where John Goodman, as a university professor, responds to a question by a snotty BBC (?) reporter in words and tone I can hear Michael use: "You don't like the FOOD?!? You don't like the MUSIC?!? What the F**K are you doing here?!?" Then he throws the reporters mic into the river. :) *************************************************** Steve Dulson Costa Mesa CA tinkersown@ca.rr.com "Folk Alliance Region - West" www.far-west.org ------------------------------ Date: Mon, 26 Apr 2010 23:11:18 +0000 (GMT) From: Anne Sandstrom Subject: Re: Re: Funeral music NJC I wasn't going to join this discussion, but here I am... So when I did plan my funeral (long time listers know why), I wanted them to play BSN. The thought of it both made me cry and comforted me. Also, I wanted Simple Gifts and Cindy Kallet's Tide and the River Rising. Like a number of cancer patients I knew at the time, I found planning the whole thing to be a relief. And I do want people crying and there to be lots and lots of flowers. Maybe even more flowers than people :-) My two biggest fears were that I'd be forgotten and that those I love wouldn't ever know how much I did love them. I wanted my funeral to be in part my saying goodbye to them, and not just them saying goodbye to me. As for the party theme - to each their own. But I'm not convinced that asking people to celebrate is all that realistic. OTOH, I have gone to true celebrations of life, which can range from the joyous and silly to somber and always seem to reflect the person more than a traditional funeral. Hoping this is a discussion that we'll all be having again many, many years down the road. lots of love, Anne ------------------------------ Date: Tue, 27 Apr 2010 11:13:08 -0400 From: Vince Subject: Nurse Jackie JoniContent > Tonight on Nurse Jackie: she asked her husband if he knew where her Joni > Mitchell albums (vinyl) were. He did not. I sent that last night from the blackberry but it not go through. It is not of earth shaking importance but its the best Joni content I can do today! Vince ------------------------------ Date: Tue, 27 Apr 2010 09:43:08 -0700 From: "Lindsay Moon" Subject: Joni on Nurse Jackie Jackie to husband: "Do you know where all my old Joni Mitchell albums went?" Stay tuned. ------------------------------ Date: Tue, 27 Apr 2010 20:35:23 +0100 From: Anita G Subject: Re: Funeral music NJC > Q: What would you like said at your funeral? > A: Look, shes still breathing! > > Melissa, I am having to pick myself up off the floor. I think that's SO funny. I haven't heard it before. I might have to add that to my list of Joni songs and hearty readings! And Anne wrote: "Hoping this is a discussion that we'll all be having again many, many years down the road." Here's to that as a really great idea! lots of love, Anita x ------------------------------ Date: Tue, 27 Apr 2010 13:54:37 -0700 From: "gene" Subject: Re: Funeral Music Kakki, Vibe and prayers going your way. Stay well, gene - ----- Original Message ----- From: To: Sent: Monday, April 26, 2010 11:16 PM Subject: Funeral Music > When I first saw this thread on the digest I thought "this is the last > thing I > need to read" but out of distraction I did and found it was what I needed. > My > mother is in critical condition in the hospital since last Saturday. I am > too > numb to get into details. But after reading these posts, especially of > Anita > and Mags, I realized this was exactly what I needed to read. For anyone > so > inclined, please send up a prayer for us. Thanks dear friends. > > Kakki ------------------------------ Date: Tue, 27 Apr 2010 21:15:14 +0000 From: c Karma Subject: re: Joni on Dylan LOL. Warning to all prospective interviewers: Prepare to have the rug yanked out from under you before you ask the first question. Actually, I think the Dylan comment was a joke and Joni was expecting a laugh. When it didn't come she continued to play along as a crank. Now the Madonna comment...not so sure. Personally, so long as Madonna continues to give away so much of her fortune, I hope she keeps making it. Madonna hasn't done so much damage to popular music as have some others, say Whitney Houston or Mariah Carey. There have always been bad singers in pop, but they are better than great singers who sing badly. CC I stole that from Willy the Shake. You know, neither a borrower nor a lender be. -- JM _________________________________________________________________ Hotmail has tools for the New Busy. Search, chat and e-mail from your inbox. http://www.windowslive.com/campaign/thenewbusy?ocid=PID28326::T:WLMTAGL:ON:WL :en-US:WM_HMP:042010_1 ------------------------------ Date: Wed, 28 Apr 2010 00:45:41 +0000 (UTC) From: waytoblue@comcast.net Subject: "The Beauty of a Soul" on cdbaby! NJC Just a message to announce that my new cd, "The Beauty of a Soul" is now up for sale and digital download on cdbaby. You can listen and sample to your heart's content! http://www.cdbaby.com/cd/victorjohnson3 Now back to your regularly scheduled programming... Victor ------------------------------ Date: Wed, 28 Apr 2010 11:05:20 +1000 From: Elisabeth Paschke Subject: Play it at my funeral music Hi, I've had a good deal of death in my family, have been a nurse for a long time and often am closely involved with the last chapter of this life on earth. For me Van Morrison Spanish Steps is a reflective beautiful work. I feel when I hear it, the fear courage mystery of taking a journey to the unknown, the kind of inevitability we need to take a big brave leap and it just might be okay. Will contemplate a Joni creation. Elisabeth in Australia ------------------------------ Date: Tue, 27 Apr 2010 20:30:04 -0700 From: "Mark" Subject: Re: Funeral music NJC - -------------------------------------------------- > Before my own parents died, I didn't > understand the concept of visitations/wakes and funeral services. When my > parents died, I realized that it was the coming-together of family and > friends > that helped my siblings and me cope with the grief and also realize that > my > mother, then my father, was truly gone. This was my experience, too, Catherine. Especially when my dad passed. During the visitation, the room filled up with Scotts and other off-shoots of the family, not to mention friends, neighbors, Dad's co-workers and what have you. It was like this warm, comforting cocoon embracing my brother, sister, Dad's sisters and myself and wrapping us up in love and support. I'll never forget it. There was talking and some laughter and just a general family reunion atmosphere. I saw relatives and other people I hadn't seen in years and it was really wonderful. For years I didn't understand why people wanted all of that ritual and displaying the person's body just seemed pointless since, for me, the person's essence or soul or personality or whatever you want to call it was no longer there. But then my partner died while his brother was on his way to Seattle in the hope of seeing him before he was gone. I knew Lonnie needed to see Eddie. They loved each other so much and Lonnie would have to see him one more time. I think Edward and I went to church once for a Christmas Eve service in the 9 years we were together. So I didn't have a clue as to who could officiate at his service. I knew his mother and Lonnie and Eddy's sister Robin would expect some kind of Christian service. We ended up having somebody the mortuary person suggested. Outside of a brief talk with us before the service, this man knew nothing about Edward since he had never met him. None of Eddy's family are the type of people who would feel comfortable getting up in front of a roomful of people to speak. So I knew it was up to me to give any kind of meaningful eulogy. It was one of the hardest things I've ever done. But I'm glad I did it because somebody had to say what this beautiful being was all about. Otherwise, the service would have been like funerals that others have mentioned where the whole thing didn't seem to have much to do with the person who had died. As far as music for my funeral goes, a shout out to Leah, because 'Sweet Bird' came into my mind too. Others are 'Way Over Yonder' by Carole King, Dusty Springfield singing another King (and Goffin) song, 'Goin' Back' and maybe Billie Holiday singing 'Please Don't Talk About Me When I'm Gone' for a bit of humor. And thank you Bob M. for reminding me of Laura's 'And When I Die'. A great song. I hope that was how she felt when her time came. This thread has generated a lot of responses. More than I've seen for a single thread in a long time, I believe. Mark in Seattle ------------------------------ Date: Tue, 27 Apr 2010 20:35:10 -0700 From: "Mark" Subject: Fw: Funeral music NJC > As far as music for my funeral goes, a shout out to Leah, because 'Sweet > Bird' came into my mind too. Others are 'Way Over Yonder' by Carole King, > Dusty Springfield singing another King (and Goffin) song, 'Goin' Back' and > maybe Billie Holiday singing 'Please Don't Talk About Me When I'm Gone' > for a bit of humor. And thank you Bob M. for reminding me of Laura's 'And > When I Die'. A great song. I hope that was how she felt when her time > came. I forgot one. Iris Dement's 'My Life'. Mark in Seattle ------------------------------ End of JMDL Digest V2010 #125 ***************************** ------- Post messages to the list by clicking here: mailto:joni@smoe.org Unsubscribe by clicking here: mailto:joni-digest-request@smoe.org?body=unsubscribe -------