Subject: Wednesday Morning Wisdom...
Date: Wed, 24 Feb 1999 11:28:19 -0500
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A Story to Live By
by Ann Wells (Los Angeles Times)
My brother-in-law opened the bottom drawer of my sister's bureau and
lifted out a tissue-wrapped package. "This," he said, "is not a slip.
This is lingerie." He discarded the tissue and handed me the slip. It wa=
s
exquisite; silk, handmade and trimmed with a cobweb of lace. The
price tag with an astronomical figure on it was still attached. "Jan bou=
ght
this the first time we went to New York, at least 8 or 9 years ago. She n=
ever
wore it. She was saving it for a special occasion. Well, I guess this is
the occasion." He took the slip from me and put it on the bed with the
other clothes we were taking to the mortician. His hands lingered on the
soft material for a moment, then he slammed the drawer shut and turned to =
me.
"Don't ever save anything for a special occasion. Every day you're
alive is a special occasion."
I remembered those words through the funeral and the days that
followed when I helped him and my niece attend to all the sad chores that
follow an unexpected death. I thought about them on the plane returning t=
o
California from the Midwestern town where my sister's family lives.
I thought about the things that she had done without realizing that
they were special.
I'm still thinking about his words, and they've changed my life. I'm
reading more and dusting less. I'm sitting on the deck and admiring
the view without fussing about the weeds in the garden. I'm spending
more time with my family and friends and less time in committee meetings.
Whenever possible, Life should be a pattern of experience to savor, not
endure. I'm trying to recognize these moments now and cherish them.
I'm not saving anything; we use our good china and crystal for every
special event - such as losing a pound, getting the sink unstopped, the
first camellia blossom. I wear my good blazer to the market if I
feel like it. My theory is: if I look prosperous, I can shell out $28.49 =
for
one small bag of groceries without wincing.
I'm not saving my good perfume for special parties; clerks in hardware sto=
res
and tellers in banks have noses that function as well as my party-going
friends'.
"Someday" and "one of these days" are losing their grip on my vocabulary.
If it's worth seeing or hearing or doing, I want to see and hear and do it
now.
I'm not sure what my sister would have done had she known that
she wouldn't be here for the tomorrow we all take for granted.
I think she would have called family members and a few close friends.
She might have called a few former friends to apologize and mend fences fo=
r
past squabbles.
I like to think she would have gone out for a Chinese dinner, her favorite
food.
I'm guessing - I'll never know.
And every morning when I open my eyes, I tell myself that it is special.
Every day, every minute, every breath truly is... a gift from God.
If you've received this it is because someone cares for you and it means
there is probably at least one someone for whom you care. If you're too
busy to take the few minutes that it would take right now to forward this
to people you care about. . . . . would it be the first time you didn't do
that
one little thing that would make a difference in your relationships?
Take this opportunity to set a new trend. Take a few minutes to send
this to someone you care about, just to let them know that you're thinking
of them. It's even better if they're not the people you already
correspond with every week.
"You've got to work as if you don't need the money, love like it's never g=
onna
hurt, and dance like nobody's watching."
- --------------------
A Story to Live By
by Ann Wells (Los Angeles Times)
My
brother-in-law opened the bottom drawer of my sister's bureau and
lifte=
d
out
a tissue-wrapped package. "This," he said, "is =
not
a
slip.
This is lingerie." He discarded the tissue and handed =
me
the
slip. It was
exquisite; silk, handmade and trimmed with a cobweb =
of
lace. The
price tag with an astronomical figure on it was s=
till
attached. "Jan bought
this the first time we went to New Yor=
k,
at
least 8 or 9 years ago. She never
wore it. She was saving i=
t
for
a special occasion. Well, I guess this is
the occasion."&nbs=
p;
He
took the slip from me and put it on the bed with the
other clothes we w=
ere
taking to the mortician. His hands lingered on the
soft material =
for
a
moment, then he slammed the drawer shut and turned to me.
"Don=
't
ever save anything for a special occasion. Every day you're
alive=
is
a
special occasion."
I remembered those words through the funera=
l
and
the days that
followed when I helped him and my niece attend to all the=
sad
chores that
follow an unexpected death. I thought about them on t=
he
plane returning to
California from the Midwestern town where my sister'=
s
family lives.
I thought about the things that she had done without
realizing
that
they were special.
I'm still thinking about his words, and
they've changed my life. I'm
reading more and dusting less. =
I'm
sitting on the deck and admiring
the view without fussing about the wee=
ds
in
the garden. I'm spending
more time with my family and friends and
less
time in committee meetings.
Whenever possible, Life should be a pat=
tern
of experience to savor, not
endure. I'm trying to recognize these momen=
ts
now
and cherish them.
I'm not saving anything; we use our good c=
hina
and crystal for every
special event - such as losing a pound, getting t=
he
sink unstopped, the
first camellia blossom. I wear my good blazer to th=
e
market if I
feel like it. My theory is: if I look prosperous, I c=
an
shell out $28.49 for
one small bag of groceries without wincing.
I'm=
not
saving my good perfume for special parties; clerks in hardware stores
a=
nd
tellers in banks have noses that function as well as my party-going
friends'.
"Someday" and "one of these days" are los=
ing
their grip on my vocabulary.
If it's worth seeing or hearing or doing, =
I
want
to see and hear and do it now.
I'm not sure what my sister would have d=
one
had she known that
she wouldn't be here for the tomorrow we all take fo=
r
granted.
I think she would have called family members and a few close
friends.
She might have called a few former friends to apologize and me=
nd
fences for past squabbles.
I like to think she would have gone out for =
a
Chinese dinner, her favorite food.
I'm guessing - I'll never
know.
And every morning when I open my eyes, I tell myself that it =
is
special.
Every day, every minute, every breath truly is... a gift from
God.
If you've received this it is because someone cares for you an=
d it
means
there is probably at least one someone for whom you care. I=
f
you're too
busy to take the few minutes that it would take right now to=
forward this
to people you care about. . . . . would it be the first ti=
me
you
didn't do that
one little thing that would make a difference in your
relationships?
Take this opportunity to set a new trend. Take=
a
few
minutes to send
this to someone you care about, just to let them know t=
hat
you're thinking
of them. It's even better if they're not the peop=
le
you
already
correspond with every week.
"You've got to work as if you don't need the money, love like it=
's
never gonna hurt, and dance like nobody's
watching."
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- --part1_920055456_boundary--
- --part0_920055456_boundary--
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Date: Fri, 26 Feb 1999 14:00:48 EST
From: Strummed@aol.com
Subject: Re: Request: NJC
WHO NEEDS THE BEACH BOYS WHEN WE HAVE KINGS X ? wholesale prices with an
employee discount? the real deal mg your a great neighbor, CHRI$.
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Date: Fri, 26 Feb 1999 19:15:30 +0000
From: catman
Subject: Re: Hejira envy
Much to my surprise, I never 'saw' the 'penis thing' either. Not even after it was
mentioned on this here list. Maybe I am just too straight nowadys. Although of
course I have had the album since 76 so maybe I was just too stoned to notice
then!
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Date: Fri, 26 Feb 1999 14:19:54 -0500
From: "Marsha"
Subject: Re: Night Ride Home
Remote... until I git my mitts on him, Randy dared:
>Am I the only one who would put this near the bottom of the list of Joni
>albums? I love "Two Grey Rooms", but the rest... it seems wordy without being
>very musical, and her voice not very good. Also at the bottom, DED, STAS,
>CMIARS. I suppose I will be run out of Jonitown on a rail now.
>RR
Y'all heat up the tar....I'll git the feathers! ;-D
Marsha
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Date: Fri, 26 Feb 1999 11:23:03 PST
From: "Don Rowe"
Subject: Re: NRH
Hi Penny --
>I got a question to pose to the list. Am I the only sick minded person
>out there that that on first glance of the Hejira cover it looks like a
>bejeweled, women's "play toy" is sticking out of her pocket instead of
>it being her wrist?
Not at all. In fact, there was quite an extended discussion of
"Hejira's Penis" -- one of the funner threads that's come along since I
joined -- partially because so many contributed. So you are NOT alone.
:-)
Don Rowe
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Date: Fri, 26 Feb 1999 14:23:05 EST
From: Strummed@aol.com
Subject: Re: Night Ride Home
my vote goes that "2 grey rooms" is the best song on the work. but why any
pecking order aside from favorite tune. play along with her music and
experience an even deeper emotion. thats why i feel musicians have such a
larger advantage sometimes. just like atheletes watching sports. its not an
requirement, maybe its the edge factor i'm driving at. always searching for
clarity and knowledge. i'm passing the hat. musically yours, CHRI$.
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Date: Fri, 26 Feb 1999 11:24:05 -0800
From: Randy Remote
Subject: Re: Night Ride Home
Marsha wrote:
> Remote... until I git my mitts on him, Randy dared:
>
> >Am I the only one who would put this near the bottom of the list of Joni
> >albums? I love "Two Grey Rooms", but the rest... it seems wordy without being
> >very musical, and her voice not very good. Also at the bottom, DED, STAS,
> >CMIARS. I suppose I will be run out of Jonitown on a rail now.
> >RR
>
> Y'all heat up the tar....I'll git the feathers! ;-D
>
> Marsha
(Randy, at a hot gallop): JONI, SAVE ME!!!.......
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Date: Fri, 26 Feb 1999 11:28:06 PST
From: "Don Rowe"
Subject: Re: Hejira envy
Colin writes ...
>Maybe I am just too straight nowadays.
Well this is certainly a VERY different and totally unexpected sort of
"coming out", now isn't it? ;-)
Don Rowe
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Date: Fri, 26 Feb 1999 14:33:14 -0500
From: "Marsha"
Subject: Re: Hejira envy
Nice, kitty, kitty man wrote:
>Much to my surprise, I never 'saw' the 'penis thing' either. Not even after it was
>mentioned on this here list. Maybe I am just too straight nowadys. Although of
>course I have had the album since 76 so maybe I was just too stoned to notice
>then!
You all don't know how close I came to asking Joni as she was signing
my Hejira vinyl cover for me in November, if she realized the speculation about that
"illusion" (drool) she created...but I just could not do it.
Now her name and mine are just centimeters from it...
Marsha, Hejira "preoccupied" and too straight too, colin... :-)
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Date: Fri, 26 Feb 1999 13:11:50 -0800
From: jan gyn
Subject: Re: Joni interviewed in todays' Times
>this cartoon, which I didn't see, but my friends did. It was based on Taming
>The Tiger, I think. It had Jewel reading her poetry and the stars behind her
>spell out `this sucks'! I shouldn't laugh but her stuff is insipid! And all
>the animals are all around her in this cartoon and a unicorn takes out a
>knife and tries to commit suicide while she's reading this poetry. Then a
>tiger pounces on her and drags her off and all you see are blood spurts.
>Then I come on and say `don't it always seem to be, that you don't know what
>you got till it's gone?' and the animals all start dancing and everyone's
This cartoon sounds excellent! Methinks it would make an awesome screensaver!
- -jan
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Date: Fri, 26 Feb 1999 21:34:43 +0000
From: catman
Subject: Re: Hejira envy
Marsha wrote:
> Nice, kitty, kitty man wrote:
soon to be a doggy daddy again-two weeks to go. Looks like we'll be moving at the same
time too!
> You all don't know how close I came to asking Joni as she was signing
> my Hejira vinyl cover for me in November, if she realized the speculation about that
> "illusion" (drool) she created...but I just could not do it.
I bet I could have! And I am sure she would not have been offended. I have this way....
Which reminds me, out driving the other day, with my friend the shhrink, Lizanne, who
speaks like the Queen(comes from a grand family), she was cut up by a van and she rolled
down her window and yelled 'f**king c**t' at him. Very funny with the Queens accent.
> Now her name and mine are just centimeters from it...
>
> Marsha, Hejira "preoccupied" and too straight too, colin... :-)
mmm just us and our pets, hey Marsha? Well, and john, but when it is cold, as now, the
dogs are more fun.
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Date: Fri, 26 Feb 1999 13:25:24 -0800
From: "Kakki"
Subject: Re: Joni interviewed in todays' Times - Full Text (Long)
Michael wrote:
>Wow. She pulls no punches, does she? Those withering Jewel
>comments made me laugh, I confess.
She certainly doesn't. She seems to be becoming increasingly revelatory
about the past. I sense she is frustrated with criticism of her putting a
child up for adoption and wants to get her side of the story out. And I'm
sure that there is even more to the story that has yet to be told. That was
funny about Jewel but I hope she doesn't read the article!
>Still as an adopted child myself, I really wonder how appropriate
>it is to talk about your child ostracizing you in media interviews.
>Reunification, as Joni acknowledges, is a difficult process. It's
>made none the easier by the glare of the media.
I cringed a little here, too, but I wonder if she is not just following a
basic tenet of publicity where, when a person is faced with the distinct
possibility of negative stories coming out in the press anyway, to be the
first one to address it. The press are not going to stop asking her and
Kilauren about the relationship any time soon and will follow the story for
many years. Joni may be caught in a double-bind - if she is candid, she
risks appearing indiscreet and callous to Kiluaren, but if she evades the
questions, the press will dig all the harder to come up with the scoop, and
possibly get distorted third-hand accounts from others. The next thing you
know, she and Kilauren are on the front page of all the major tabloids.
It's may be the lesser of the two evils to get it out on the table upfront
to help blunt the speculation.
Kakki
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