From: owner-eda-thoughts-digest@smoe.org (eda-thoughts-digest) To: eda-thoughts-digest@smoe.org Subject: eda-thoughts-digest V1 #309 Reply-To: eda-thoughts@smoe.org Sender: owner-eda-thoughts-digest@smoe.org Errors-To: owner-eda-thoughts-digest@smoe.org Precedence: bulk eda-thoughts-digest Thursday, December 10 1998 Volume 01 : Number 309 * If you ever wish to unsubscribe, send an email to * eda-thoughts-digest-request@smoe.org with ONLY * the word unsubscribe in the body of the email * . * PLEASE :) when you reply to this digest to send a post TO the list, * change the subject to reflect what your post is about. A subject * of Re: eda-thoughts-digest V1 #xxx or the like gives readers no clue * as to what your message is about. Today's Subjects: ----------------- ET: He lp me!!! [mandabear4@juno.com (Mandabear four)] ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Date: Wed, 9 Dec 1998 15:12:16 -0500 From: mandabear4@juno.com (Mandabear four) Subject: ET: He lp me!!! Angels and Ben, I am at an all time 'fuzzed stage. I don't know what to do or say or anything. Okay, here goes. My best friend (Tim) broke up with his girlfriend (Joanne) last night. I've known he was going to bounce that idea her way for two days so when he called me last night I wasn't exactly surprised. I have been best friends with this guy for about 2 years. We're closer than any two people can be. While he was going out with her, a whole 10 months almost, I got to know and like her. We became instant friends...almost. I mean, because Tim and I were so close she was naturally a bit jealous of the two of us. Tim and I crossed that friendship line this summer which was really bad because we both have other halves. they got upset and eventually got over it. Well, my half didn't. He's still really angry about it. That's not the point though. The point and question I have to ask is do I still remain friends with his ex? I mean, I think she's mad at me. Tim talked to her about feeling smothered by her because they spent every waking minute, and sometimes sleeping hours together. Not sleeping as in having sex but she often slept over when things got too rough at home or if she didn't feel like going home. I mean they were both very close but I think they got too close and needed to break up. After he told her all this he called me. At this point they hadn't broken up. After talking to me, she went to his house and that's when he told her he wanted to break up with her. I think she thinks I told him to dump her which I didn't. He asked me what he should do and I said to do whatever he thought was right. I told him he's my best friend and I loved him dearly. I jsut want him to be happy. I saw his ex a few times in school today and I felt horrible. I felt like crying all day. I know I didn't do anything but I mean we were pretty good friends. I feel sympathetic for them both but I also feel like I need to be there more for my best friend than his ex girlfriend. What do you think? Should I stay away from her and not say anything? I want to say something but I don't know what to say. This is a very tricky situation. What do I do? I love them both dearly and I jsut want them to be happy. My best friend really feels this is the best thing to do right now and knowing him as I do, I know he's following his heart. He loves her very dearly but he also wants to be a normal teenager and not be with one person right now. Is that mean of him to do? I mean, cutting back on seeing her would be next to impossible seeing as she practically lives at his house. At school they were in Marching Band together and that meant they were together *_all*_ the time. I know how he's feeling because I have been dating this guy for almost 15 months now and it's really hard to know that I will most likely be with him for a very long time. I am only (almost...11 more days) 16. Both Tim and I can see ourselves with our significant others years on down the road together but we don't really want to start that journey right now. What do ya'll think? i am really beating myself up over this. Please help!! <3 always ~Mandabear~ Somewhere down the road there'll be answers to the questions. Somewhere down the road though we cannot see it now. Somewhere down the road you'll find mighty arms reaching for you. And they will hold the answers at the end of the road. -Amy Grant- ___________________________________________________________________ You don't need to buy Internet access to use free Internet e-mail. Get completely free e-mail from Juno at http://www.juno.com/getjuno.html or call Juno at (800) 654-JUNO [654-5866] ------------------------------ End of eda-thoughts-digest V1 #309 **********************************