From: owner-eda-thoughts-digest@smoe.org (eda-thoughts-digest) To: eda-thoughts-digest@smoe.org Subject: eda-thoughts-digest V1 #162 Reply-To: eda-thoughts@smoe.org Sender: owner-eda-thoughts-digest@smoe.org Errors-To: owner-eda-thoughts-digest@smoe.org Precedence: bulk eda-thoughts-digest Monday, August 31 1998 Volume 01 : Number 162 Today's Subjects: ----------------- ET: Re: I caught up and now I'm ready to post some myself! ["Kevin Pease"] ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Date: Mon, 31 Aug 1998 11:39:35 -0400 From: "Kevin Pease" Subject: ET: Re: I caught up and now I'm ready to post some myself! >> Dr. RomeAntic writes: >And I also know men who just would never consider that way of life and >would after sex really feel connected to the girl [...] >So what I'm saying is... either there is no hormone or not everybody has >it... I'd go with the first option, in which case that is all about >our personality and values we have... I just wanted to add to this... I realized after reading Doc's post that I probably should've included a bit more in the way of explanation in my other email about this... my other post sort of sounded like, "Yeah, foolish women, getting psychologically bonded to men, HA HA HA!" :) I didn't mean it that way AT ALL. There *is* a chemical (I believe it is, chemically, a hormone) that can cause a psychological "bonding" effect... when it's released, it's part of the whole "warm fuzzy" (as I mentioned in my last post). I believe it's oxytocin, but I may have the name mixed up. BUT... Doc does have a very good point about the rest - a lot of guys (I'd even venture to say *most*) aren't out there having sex with different girls every night, and a lot of guys, like he said, wouldn't even consider that sort of lifestyle. If I recall correctly, too, there is an analogous chemical in guys (it might be the same one as in females, I'm not sure... I can dig out some of my old text books if anybody *really* wants to know the chemical structure and all... :) that helps to cause the same sort of effect. So, biologically, what this means: - no, you're not going to fall in love with some guy or girl (depending on your gender and/or orientation) if you have sex with him/her once. - It's a *very* small one-time effect, but it does function cumulatively... it's more of an additional side effect, than a "this is the only thing that does it" thing. - I'm not saying the only reason we fall in love is because we have sex & there's a chemical that does the rest. There's way more to it than that. I think that might be a little clearer now... sorry for the confusion. :) Kevin - ---------- Kevin Pease kbpease@boston.crosswinds.net (ICQ UIN: 3106063) (AOL Instant Messenger: kbpease) http://www.crosswinds.net/boston/~kbpease "Sometimes I sing like my life is at stake, 'cause you're only as loud as the noises you make..." ---(Ani DiFranco)--- ------------------------------ End of eda-thoughts-digest V1 #162 **********************************